In 2002 I moved from London, England to Canada with my wife, and together we started a family. In 2010 we decided to divorce. It hit me hard and I fell apart. While going through the legal process of getting divorced, I looked everywhere for inspiration and guidance to help me through the emotional journey, but found nothing that I could relate to. I was looking for something or someone that would guide me out of those dark places and help me create a new life for myself that I was passionate about and proud to live each and every day!

To this day, I remember when I first made the decision to get my shit together. It was an early morning back in mid 2010. After a sleepless night, I had resolved to spend the day locked up in my bedroom. I was an absolute mess, having no motivation or energy to do anything. I was bawling my eyes out under my duvet cover so that the kids could not hear me. Then there was a knock at my door and my 2 babies came in to say good morning, both carrying gifts for me: A colouring of a butterfly and a note saying “I’m so glad to have a funny dad Matt. You are stroig”.

In that moment, something inside of me changed. It’s hard to describe or even explain exactly what it was, but in that moment I just cried. I hugged my babies and I cried even more. They were too young to understand what was going on but they held me tight. After they left my room, I got out of my bed, looked at myself in the mirror and said to myself “I am strong! I am going to get through this”.

Since 2012, I have coached hundreds of men and women across the globe, helping them handle the emotional stress that divorce can bring and showing them how they can move on and live a life they are passionate about.

While going through my divorce, I looked everywhere for inspiration and guidance to help me through the emotional journey. This is the book I wish I had.

Matthew Ball